When a custody action is pending, it is more important than ever to communicate with the other parent in a respectful manner. As a rule of thumb, always assume you are being recorded while having conversations with them over the phone or in person. Recordings, videos, and text screenshots that show you are behaving inappropriately may be presented to the Judge and used against you in the custody case. This is a very emotional, stressful time in your life, but it is important to keep your cool and take the high road if/when conflict arises.
Not only may certain conduct negatively affect the results of your case, but it is not in the best interests of your child(ren) to be bickering with the other parent. In order to successfully co-parent, you must begin working on positive communication with the other parent from the start. You should be clear on your rationale in decision-making and look at both sides if there is a disagreement. If the other parent ever says something or sends a message that upsets you, be sure that you calm down before you respond. Keep your response short, friendly, and business-like. Again, taking the high road is essential.